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welcome back to another episode of advancing with Amy mental health Warrior and neuros spicy Mama I'm your host Amy

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and today we have an extraordinary guest Fatima Bay who will be sharing her

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remarkable insights on overcoming fear recognizing selfworth and shifting

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mindsets for success as a personal coach speaker and Mind Shifter Fatima draws

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from her own journey and extend of experience to help both teens and adults

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find balance and purpose in their lives in this episode Fatima opens up about her own struggles with self-worth and

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confidence and how she transformed her life with the guidance of a higher power she explains her unique approach to mind

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shifting tailored to individual needs and the importance of addressing mental health issues honestly and openly Fatima

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also shares a powerful story about a young girl named Janiah whose life was transformed through her coaching join us

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as we delve into conversations about the impact of fear the importance of mental health and the necessity of having real

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sometimes uncomfortable discussions to Foster growth and resilience whether

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you're a teen an adult or someone looking to make a positive change in your life Fatima's wisdom is sure to

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inspire and Empower you so let's get started we're here with Fatima B today

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who is a Mind Shifter Fatima welcome well thank you for having me yeah we're

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glad to have you here so tell me a little bit about what a Mind Shifter is well I shift people's thinking for their

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own success so I came up with that name my sister helped me come up with that name actually because it is something I

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decided to put a title to something I've done my entire life so I help people to shift the way they think because our

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thinking is where all the answers lie and also where they die if we it's how we think that

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determines where we go where we don't go what we do what we don't do our thought patterns are everything and so I came to

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an understanding that a long time ago that it really doesn't matter what tools you give there's plenty of people out

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there that give you like lots of advice and tools and they're

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excellent but a hammer doesn't no good in the hand of a baby it can only do

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damage baby doesn't know what to do with it so I'm not saying that people are babies what well I'm just using that as

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an analogy but what I'm saying is that we have to shift our thinking if we want success so I like to start with your

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foundation I'm a foundation person so your foundation of how you think that's

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my focus the tips and tools once you have shifted your thinking I'll give you

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those to but I'm not giving them to you until we shift your thinking because I'm not wasting my

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time so and everybody most of us need mind shifts we don't all need to same kind because we're not all on the same

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level at the same time but we all need some sort of Mind shifting so that's why

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I do personal coaching now I do speaking engagements I do presentations I love

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doing workshops with presentation to high schools it's like my favorite out of everything I do and it's hard to shift the thinking of high school

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students Believe It or Not uh because they're very they big walls up um for

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many reasons some of them I don't blame them for actually in today's society but I'm able to typically anyway get past

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those walls and shift their thinking and they've told me so so um that's a

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beautiful thing but so when I do my one-on-one coaching one of the reasons I got into one-on-one coaching isn't just

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because okay you can make money with one-on-one coaching it's because oneone coaching is where I can be more specific

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to your needs I do not do I cannot stand allinone allpurpose messages that's like

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Bland plain rice was that you eat white rice but you eat it

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with a side of something flavorful whether it's a sauce whether it's veggies whether it's meat whatever stew

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chicken whatever it is I don't do allpurpose messages I really it's so

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important to individualize what you actually need and at your level I don't

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do cookie cutter I just don't believe in it so for me as a Mind Shifter that's

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just that's what I do I'm going to give you an example of what I did I used to be a math teacher and very briefly I did

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more math tutoring than teaching and I actually enjoyed the tutoring more than the teaching but I used mind shifting

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methods when I tutored math so here's what I would do as a ma as a person who thinks mathematically I think

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mathematically so the way algebra works is exactly the way way I think I break things down I see them in all their

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different phases but understand their summary and I see people that way so

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math to me was easy because it's very logical according to how I was already built to think but if you're not a

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mathematical thinker mat is really hard and I get that so unlike most math mathematicians I don't just say formula

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this and formula that and this those are all just empty words to them get them to understand the concepts

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first then let's talk about the formulas then let's give it labels and titles so I would do that so what I would do is I

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would talk I would in the within the first session I would find out how does this person think so I would use

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analogies whatever they could relate to I use analogies for sports for race for

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sex for vacuum cleaners cars those are just some of the things

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I've done to get them to understand the mathematical concept and then they're just like oh well that wasn't so hard

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it's like no want this explain to you the right way it's really you can get this and get them to really understand

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it they can't get it um and once I understood that I would help them to then we would take the the principle and

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we would apply the titles to that formula we'd apply okay this is the

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principle how do we work that principle within this equation within this whatever it is we're working on and a

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lot of what I did was algebra so that was kind of easy for me pre-cal is where I was like H you're

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boring that's where just like nah I don't want to take anymore well I which

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i' had you around when I was in Algebra I was just using that as an example of you know how mind shifting

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works right is mind shifting something you develop yeah absolutely it's something

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that came natural to me so it's not like I I went to school went to the mind the masters of the Mind shifters you know

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many of us there I'm not the only person out there that shifts people thinking but there's not a lot that focus on it

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the way I do and I call myself the Mind Shifter because that's literally what I

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do I have I am known for making statements to people quick two sentences

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and blowing your mind it just shifting your perspective that's really is is Shifting your perspective to get you to

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see something so that you can do whatever it is you need to do one of the biggest ways I absolutely love to do

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this Amy is with people who don't see their own self value who don't see their own value who

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do not realize how valuable they actually are people with those self-esteem that's

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what we used to call it but now we call it self-worth and there's like 25 other

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whatever words you want bu words you want to call for it that boil down to the same thing but selfworth is what it

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is but you know there's many different titles you could get it I absolutely love to

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take and I especially do this with young women because I was a young woman I can

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relate and get them to see that they have value because there's so many especially teenagers when I go into

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these high schools I see it all over them and I'll address it in the middle of the classroom

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too so many of them think they're stupid simply put as much as we say you

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have worth yay everybody's worth something blah blah blah none of that matters if we don't believe

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you if you say the same thing to everybody I don't believe you either I mean let's be real everybody

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has everybody is when you start making statements like that nobody's listening nobody's taking you seriously I wouldn't

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say nobody most of us are not taking you seriously when you make blanket statements like that just sound like you're an airhead and I'm just gonna be

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BL just sound like an airhead and and I say and and I know that everybody who's saying stuff like that is not an airhead

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and I'm not saying everybody is or that they're not well intended what I'm say what I'm talking about is how it's

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received right and so you have these people that unless you

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individualize their value to them they don't get it it doesn't apply

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to them so why are you saying it to me right you know well and here it's such a pivotal point with these teenagers

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because they're embarking on a new life soon and they're finding out who they

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are and so you're getting them at a really good time what interest you about

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teens like how did you get into working with teens I've always worked with Children

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of different ages throughout my entire life even when I was a children I

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worked with ch I did even when I was 10 years old I

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was working at my Lizzy's uh daycare well not technically working cuz I was

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10 and 12 or no yeah I think it was 10 at that time but I was helping out with

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at at the daycare with the kids because first of all if you're in lizes and you're around

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her you working so it doesn't matter if you're the queen of England you working

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too that's how she was um but she was so respected that she could do that but even then I used to help the the little

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kids like the two-year-old learn how to learn their ABCs to two to 5year olds learn their ABCs learn how to count to

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10 in English and Spanish we did did have two-year-olds at the daycare that could count to 10 in English and Spanish

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for real most of the kids that came out of her daycare were overprepared for kindergarten by the time I got there

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because we taught them from babies and I realized that and then I used to teach uh Sunday school at my old church and I

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that's something I still value highly to this day it was a wonderful experience and I taught different age groups when I

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was there but not teens and then fast forward to many years later I ended up being a dorm supervisor at job cor and

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job cor students are between the ages of 16 to 24 so I had a dorm full of about

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75 females at first and then I switched over to 100

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males teenage boys being the head chick in charge and

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there was only one female on my staff every everything else was testosterone oh but and you got to be

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tough to handle that but I can tell you teenage boys are far more respectful

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they really are that is true well you know as females are just more emotional but I mean that's what it boils down to

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really but with the working with the teenagers there it really opened up my eyes of what I was capable of in dealing

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with them because I always had a natural Talent you know for dealing with them but they really kind of helped me to

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understand more I I would say they they really helped me to

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understand how to work with them more there's so much I learned um from working with them well

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honest you're obviously a very honest and open person and I think they the

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teens respect that that is the number one reason why I can reach them I don't

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think I can reach them because I have special powers or because I'm better than anyone else I'm just honest and

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real with them and I don't treat them like they're 5 years old right I don't talk at them I talk with them I get

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their input I look for what they

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think you know I ask their opinions all the time and I mean it and I'm just really raw I'm really raw and I know not

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everybody can handle that because some people can only handle cotton candy because that's all they've ever dealt

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with and but you can't if you want to deal with real issues you got to be real and honest about them and that's not

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always pretty and not always comfortable I'm just willing to have the UN comfortable

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conversations and um I have a podcast as well and so part of that is my podcast

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is for teens and the adults work with them so on my podcast I am really raw

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and let me also include in that statement I'm Raw but not obnoxious there is a difference and yes I do

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understand the difference and I say that because a lot of times people like I keep it 100 I'm real and you just real

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rude and obnoxious and get country as hell whatever title you want to give it

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it's like no I'm not I'm not that I'm just real I have those conversations I I

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have a podcast for teens it's called Mind shift power podcast and it's a podcast for teens and the adults who

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work with them so on my podcast I'm very very raw open and honest uh every guest

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I have on there is open and honest as well if I feel people can't be real I

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just don't have them on my show I don't care how famous they are how what how much of an expert they are if you can't

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be honest and real and have raw conversations then leave me alone so um not necessarily leave me alone but

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just I'm not interested because I I my podcast is there to help people so we talk about issues that are

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relevant to the teen years or to the adults who work with teens so and that

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is everything from careers to child molestation and rape you couldn't be have a more

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varied topic than that but I and I'm unafraid to talk about the things that we need to deal with because something I

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else have learned in life and I'm talking to you audience right now everything you trying to avoid

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is the very thing you need to be talking about so you can deal with it and get over it instead of staying under

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it wow did ADV tell me for your podcast

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do you ever talk about mental health and that kind of thing oh absolutely I talk

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about it from different perspectives intentionally so I will talk about uh

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domestic violence and human trafficking is something that has come up is coming up and I will continue to talk about

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because those are things that are near and dear to my heart I'm very passionate about but I will not talk I have the

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same conversation with every guest I'll have many guests on and the conversations will be very different with different focuses so when it comes

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to mental health I think mental health is a big deal and mental health I want

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to make sure I clarify this to the audience when I say mental health I literally mean your mental

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wellbe because mental health doesn't just mean crazy folks because that's what some people think they think oh

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mental health okay so you're just talking about people who are schizophrenic or bipolar or personality disorder blah blah blah blah

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no it means your mental well-being those disorders are a part of the conversation

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too but they're not the entire conversation your mental well-being means that you're dealing with the stuff

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that you have't been ignoring for years I had an episode on I think it came out a couple weeks ago was

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recent it was called the title of the episode is my children were molested

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right under my nose like this even my sister what she

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went tell she went whoa yeah like oh yeah I went there this woman who

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is I think she's 71 she's said her she's at her age on the show but she her this happened to her

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children and it did happen right under her nose we talked about it you know why I thought it was important to talk about

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I think it's important to talk about being you know uh sexual molestation and sexual abuse

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um physical abuse I think it's important to talk about all of those things but sexual abuse is a different category

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it's not it just it has more elements to it than physical and mental it's it

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encompasses more it's a bit it's has some Nuance needs and I understand that it's important to talk about the things

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that make us uncomfortable and that's a topic that nobody wants to talk about

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because we do talk about people that were sexually abused and I'm glad that we do and I don't think we should stop

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no however the conversation I don't hear happening what about the parents of the

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molested children they go through a lot too oh

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yeah and some parents freaking deserve it because it was their fault I'm gonna be real and honest but some don't and

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some just were genuinely ignorant and they nobody can beat them up more than

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they do and I don't know that people understand that and I think it's important that they could that they talk

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to each other and maybe hear someone else like them they're not going to go to a group session but they might listen

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to my podcast so I can help them in that way well I think that's that's great because not only are they healing

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themselves but hopefully other parents are listening and hearing signs maybe

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they could look for or things that they could watch for yeah I think that's so

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important we talked about that but when it comes to mental health I think it's an extremely important subject that's

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why want to come on here I don't guest with everyone I'll be honest with you and I don't have

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everybody guessing on my show either I'm very particular one thing I like about your show and I said this to you in the

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chat but you talk you're willing with your show you talk about the stuff that other people try to scr around and I

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love that about you I respect it because we need to have these conversations I think it's so important there needs to

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be more podcasts like yours and less of the fluffy crap sorry fluffy crap people

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but I there needs to be more I mean those The Fluffy crap has a place too

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because if you're dealing with heavy stuff all day you need to listen to fluffy crap to kind of balance yourself out and I understand that but we need

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more people like you that are willing to go there and talk about the stuff that

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most people aren't now most people wouldn't dare have a have an episode like I did and title it just

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that but you know the conversation was

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was gentle and just real and raw you know and I came up with that episode

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after having a conversation with her because we actually talked about it at length and I was like would you be

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willing to do an episode about it and she's like yeah and even the woman is 70 something years old this happened 30

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years ago she still got choked up during the episode I would too yeah yes because

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it's still there my point is with mental health the issues you're not dealing

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with and I'm not talking to Amy I'm talking to you the issue you are not dealing with is already dealing with you

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you already having messed up relationships you already putting and

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stealing crap into your kids that was instilled into you and you know it's crap you are already messing up at work

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because of the patterns that you have and those patterns developed because of the crap you're not dealing with oh you

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gave me chills it well it's just the truth our mental health is not just about I want

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people to stop thinking of mental health as crazy folks with disorders no mental

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health just like physical health it means Health right means all aspects of it

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that's why I'm fine I ain't got no problems I yeah had that happened to I got M Lista when I was 10 I never talked

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about it but I'm fine no you're not unless you're dealing with it it's already dealing with you I promise you

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yeah you're right on yeah I respect that and I've listened to your podcast and I was blown away by the

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change in one of the young ladies that I heard about yes yeah you want to talk

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about that a little bit sure if you guys are listening M shift power podcast episode number two is what I'm

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specifically talking about there's a young girl her name is Jania and because we say her name in the

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episode a local young girl and when she first met me at a community center I was

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volunteering doing some mind shifting I was actually doing a girls

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group Just For Girls stressed out girls to come in and talk well that's how I met her and it just kind of blossomed

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from there but when I first met her she had no self value she did not know that

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she was smart she's beautiful she's very intelligent she's actually more mature

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than a lot of people in my age I'm not joking like you can hear it she's also

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episode 5 getting out of a toxic relationship at 17 coming from a 17y old that's pretty

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it was a pretty powerful episode but you can hear her maturity in in episode five as well so this girl had no clue who she

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was what she was going to do with her life she wasn't even thinking about college she wasn't even sure she was going to finish High School like she

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just she was in a really bad toxic relationship with a guy who was me he

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wasn't physically abusive but he was mentally verbally abusive and I basically coached her into I mind

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shifted her into seeing herself I gave her some specific methods but I was able to customize them to to her and one

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thing I didn't do was girl you need to get rid of that negro I didn't tell her get rid of your boyfriend right away but

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it happened yeah it happened but not because I I forced it down her

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throat you love yourself it's hard to put up with crap it is but if you don't

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love yourself because you don't realize you're worth loving and that you're not dumb and that you're smart if you don't

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understand all of that you put up with more than you should and for her I was

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able to get her to see herself so fast forward to the future by the time we

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recorded the episode she now was not only going to

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finish high school but she knew exactly what she wanted to do with her life and what she was put on this Earth to do and

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she need to go to college do it she's going to be a family lawyer oh wow a family attorney so yeah I heard her

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saying she likes to argue so that would be perfect yes but here's the thing I'm really good with analogies but sometimes

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she blows my mind with some of her analogies like for real wow they're really really good she and I'll be

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explaining something to her and she goes you know what that makes me think of blah blah blah and I'm like wow can I

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steal that because I'm G steal don't worry I'll give you credit but that's a good one but but my point

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is that I I use my mind shifting methods to get this young girl to see her see herself because I as a

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coach it's our job is to get you to the finish line and get you to win that's

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what coaches do coaches do it in sports they get it get you to do it physically I get you to do it mentally so that you

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can do it business-wise personally whatever other Branch you want to go off into but I start with the core I start

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with the root and then we can Branch off into these other areas is because you

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have to deal with because you know as the saying goes everywhere you go there you are yeah I love that saying I don't

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remember where it originated but I when I heard it I was like that's awesome I love it you know everywhere everything

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that we do we are in it so if you are messed up in the head messed up in your

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thinking messed up somehow messed up in your emotions whatever it is all that messed upness I like to make up person

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all that mess upness it branches out and it affects your job it affects your career career it affects what you do and

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don't try it affects your relationships it affects how you raise your children it affects your family relationships as

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well all your relationships friendship romantic family all of them because it's who you are and if you're a person for

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example Who Walks In Fear all the time that fear will play itself out because you'll never go for the chances that you

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need to go for that are going to take you over the top you will never try XYZ

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you'll just there's just you'll cut yourself off from good relationships

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because you're afraid of getting hurt that fear will just like completely take over so let's deal with that fear

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because if we deal with that fear all these other areas can begin to grow now that's just W well I really love

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listening to you and I enjoyed your podcast the episode I listened to that you were talking about she really by the

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end of it like when she was talking she really likes herself now and I loveed

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seeing that and hearing that yeah that's beautiful I was sharing this with her

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just the other day because I didn't tell her this part before I said you know why I was able to understand you and why I

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was so determined the moment I met you to get you to at least to the best of my

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ability to realize who you are and what you have and the gifting that you have

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and the intelligence you have Etc because I was you I understand I know

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what it's like to feel like I'm dumb I'm just fat ugly stupid I'm crap I used to

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believe that about myself and I now real you know people look at me like what CU

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I always came across as confident because I'm very strong I have a very strong personality God created me that

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way that doesn't mean that I believed in myself and I didn't I really really

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didn't took me a very long time I'm a very confident person now people see me as strong and confident and I am but it

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took a long time to build that I wasn't just born I'll be real raw and honest

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um my relationship with God okay understanding not just who I am

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but whose I am and who made me and why he made me and how he made me and how every way he made me is a gift and how

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he intelligently designed me and all of my personality traits not the ones I

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developed with an attitude I mean innate personality trait not all my choices but

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innate personality traits that he put them there I was born to be the Mind Shifter and I always have people have

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always been drawn to me to tell me stuff that sometimes I want to know but they

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feel comfortable telling me like all their business of the deep stuff that they don't tell anybody right and

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there's a reason for that because God designed me that way and I'm always like I'm just a natural counselor and the

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thing is I'm not a therapist and I don't want to be a therapist actually but I do

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therapy yes as I like to say it goes with the territory honestly in dealing with

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people because if you are going to talk to me about an issue I don't compartmentalize and say well we can only talk about XYZ now if we only have

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30 minutes then I might do that but I'll say let's talk about this later but I don't compartmentalized as far as I want

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you to be a whole person I want you to be a whole functioning person and do well in your career and go for it but I

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know that this is holding you back so I'm going to address it so if you're not willing to address stuff don't come to

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me cuz cuz we ain't going to work powerful I love your energy and it

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really is your confidence shines through which makes you very attractive and you

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want to talk to you I can see how people want to do that I I hope so because I

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see it as a tool that I can use to draw you in and

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help you yeah because at the end of the day nothing invigorates me more than really just helping people but it's not

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just helping giving you food or giving you some kind of training I want to help you live not just exist not survive but

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live and then Thrive because you don't go from Sur surviving to thriving you

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got to live first and then you can Thrive that you got to you know go progression progress is the process you

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know so I really I love being able to do that for people so when I have audience

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with people if I have a chance to change your mind I will and I don't care your title is I don't care if you're rich and

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famous or a bum on the street you are not different to me when it comes to that right so you know that's my mindset

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mentality is if I'm if if I come in contact with you and I find a way to help you I I will I do read people

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really well and sometimes I it's not always appropriate to address what I see

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and so sometimes I do have to kind of turn it off well you can't turn it off but I just turned the volume

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down and where sometimes I might pull a person as side and say look I know this might seem strange and weird and you

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don't know me but XYZ blah blah blah and I just get a gut feeling of whether or

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not I can approach that person with whatever it is and some I'll take the chance and if I think I can I will take

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the chance because you never know because sometimes people could look like I'm tough what you talking about and but

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you don't know what's going on inside them and if you touch them in the right spot they'll open right up and be like

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well actually I been going through this D and I'm not everybody's counselor but

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if I can help I will I just I care about people and I care about people's wellbeing so I try to do whatever I can

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from where I am and that's something audience all of you can do you can do something from where you are you're not

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you might not have the gifts that I have you probably have some gifts I don't have but whatever wherever you are in

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life you can help the people around you the worst Society in the world in human existence

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is one where everybody only cares about themselves uh amen so so tell oh sorry no go ahead

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go ahead so tell me where can people find you if they're interested in coaching with you and do you only coach

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teens no so teens is a focus for my podcast and going to high schools I do

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work with adults here's a seg i here's a sidebar I want to I meant to add earlier so I'm

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glad you asked that because forgot to say this yes yes my podcast is for teens and

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I work with teens a lot I also work with the grown teens oh

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we call them adults because a lot of us are still teens on the

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inside so a lot of what I talk about with teens and explain to teens still

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applies to us I'll phrase it the only difference most of the time is the way

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I'll phrase it when I'm talking to teens and the examples that I use from talking to a room room full of women that are 50

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plus my examples will be different than if I'm talk to a teenager the principles will be exactly the same that's inter my

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wording will be different that's interesting you said that the stories still apply because when I listen to

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your podcast at first I was like well this is for teens I don't know if I'm going to really get into this and then I

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was like this is really good and this totally applies to me too I could do

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that like you were talking about spreading the lotion on and saying you know I'm beautiful and I'm worthy and

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those kind of things and I thought I could be teaching my daughter that I could be doing that so I just yeah I

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appreciate the work that you're doing that is one of my mind shifting methods actually that's just one yeah and and

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here's the thing and if y'all don't know what we're talking about go listen to episode two and you will

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so that method with the lotion I used that on her and I've used it on others

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but I don't use the same method with every person I use the same principle with

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everybody right but the methods I will change from person to person depending

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on what's going to work for them how did you come up with your methods I just came up with them that's

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just incredible so is it's the same principles that you learned when you're going through life coaching training or

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even when you go when you learn when you get your degree for therapy some of the stuff that they teach you it's stuff that I'm already doing I just understand

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that application matters yes so I apply them in different ways with different

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people so what I might say to you as an individual would be different than what I'll say to a whole crowd because with a

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whole crowd I'm dealing with multip you know multiple kinds of people but for you individually I might bring out

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something that has to do with dogs because you like dogs or whatever it is but I think it's important to apply

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things correctly so with that being said back to your question for I do coach adults a lot as well my podcast is for

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is for teens because those are the people I'm trying to reach with that particular platform because I saw a

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problem that I could solve and but with adults I still take the same principles and apply them so

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with adults what I do is help people to find their purpose because the one of the reasons we make most of the mistakes

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we make in life is because we don't know why we're here in the first place we

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don't understand our gifts and we and this is not just true for Americans it doesn't matter what Society grow up when

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we all have cultural normal norms and things that we're taught and sometimes

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we're taught that you can only be this or you have to we we're all taught to fit in some kind of box usually and I

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teach people to crawl out of that box and think differently you

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do so you can find me on Fatima bay.com as a t i m a b

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y.com my pod there's a podcast page there all of my coaching Services I

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offer are there so I do want to tell your audience what my focuses are because I I coach people but I know I'm

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not a general orp purpose person I have very particular focuses because those are things that I'm just really good at

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and I have a bigger passion about so number one is to find your purpose number two is to take that purpose once

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you know what your purpose is you take that purpose and you turn it into a business or a career I'm a firm believer

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that nobody should be working to pay bills what the hell are you on this Earth for no bad so you should be making

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money off of that gift and talent so that as many wise business people have said you won't work a day in your life

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if you're living out your passion that is so true but that's how you do but you need to find out what that is first and so once you do that get turn into a

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career business and then teens as we know but one of my biggest ones you're going to see me over the next couple

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years talk about a lot is balance now now the thing about balance

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is it seems like a very simple topic and people talk about it but I never in my life heard of When anybody talk about it

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as deeply as I do and have an understanding of everything in life that works has

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balance everything in life that's not working something is out of balance

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simply put it doesn't matter what example you give me the what's in balance or out of

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balance it's in the details so politics is a great example of that

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because we have people who are just so extremely to the left extremely to the right and both you are freaking nuts the

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truth is in the middle right the truth is in the middle but anyway I help

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people to find balance in their life so if you're in an area that's not

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working but you do have some of the right answers you just they're out of balance so let's figure out what that is

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you know it's kind of like well she talks too much tells every out of your business well that's

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bad and and then so she went from that to never opening up to anybody ever that's also bad right they're both out

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of balance because they're both extremes balance is knowing how and when to let it out but

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being wise enough to not let it all out right that's such great advice yes thank

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you so much Fatima I really enjoyed talking with you today me I enjoyed talking with you too yeah thank you I

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will go ahead and put all your information in the show notes so that people can find you and and seek you out

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if they want to and is there anything you want to leave our listeners with today I think I already left you a few

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nuggets yeah you did I do specifically talking about you had a free coaching

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session oh yes thank you shame on me because I was supposed to remember

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that I get so excited that I kind of forget so I do offer a free 30 minute

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consultation for anybody who's who wants to make sure that we're a match I do not want you to become my client if I'm not

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good for you and I'm not gonna be a match for everybody and that's okay but if you think that I might be able to

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help you then absolutely let's have a chat and find out and I'm really honest so if I think I can't help you I will

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send you where I think you can be helped I'm I'm like that I think that's how all

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therapist should be I think I you're not a therapist but I'm saying anybody in this field yeah think that they should

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all give that 30 minute kind of get to know your thing and see if you're a good fit absolutely I don't want somebody to

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sign up for me that I I know I can't help the only people I can't help honestly are those who are unwilling

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yeah somebody who just wants a coach because they want them to powder the booty that's not me go sit on the street

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to pot your booty coaches are us that's I want to get actual results and

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not just make you feel comfortable and pet you you know I'm not I I I want you

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to be comfortable obviously but I want you to be uncomfortable enough in the parts that need to change well thank you very much I I want

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to thank you again for coming on the show and everybody this was advancing

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with Amy with Fatima Bay and I'll put all her information in the show notes for you and that wraps up another

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enlightening episode of advancing with Amy mental health Warrior and neuros spicy mama I want to extend a heartfelt

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thank you to our incredible guest Fatima Bay for sharing her profound insights on Mental Health overcoming fear and the

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importance of selfworth Fatima your passion for helping individuals whether teens or adults is truly inspiring your

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work in mind shifting your dedication to honest and raw conversations and your

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commitment to aiding others and finding balance in their lives are commendable listeners if you found today's

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discussion as impactful as I did I encourage you to take advantage of Fatima's generous offer of a free 30

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minute consultation session it's an excellent opportunity to see if her coaching methods align with your

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personal growth Journey you can find the link to schedule your session in our episode description additionally if you

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helps us continue to bring you valuable content and remarkable guests like Fatima let's spread the message of

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