Shifting your Mindset to Find your Why with Fatima Bey - Guesting on The Unscripted Podcast

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[Music] All right, folks. Welcome back to another episode of the Unscripted

Introducing Special Guest, Fatima Bey The Mind Shifter

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Podcast. I am your host, Aayita Oman, and I do have a special guest with us today, Fatima Bay. Thank you so much for

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coming on the show. How are you today? I'm great. Thank you for having me. Absolutely. All right, girl. So, I I

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have read through your summary, but just like we like to do with every guest, tell us a bit about yourself. What makes

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you this incredible businesswoman and coach and teacher? Um, we want to know

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from you who you are. Share with us. Well, um, to give you kind of a brief

My Journey: From Seamstress to International MindShift Coach

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summary, I am a dual entrepreneur first of all. That means that I I have two businesses. Um, the first business that

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I started many years ago at this point, um, is called My Abashai. And I am a professional seamstress, dress maker,

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designer, and sewing teacher. So, I specialize in wedding gowns. I make and design wedding gowns and we're heading

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into wedding and prom season right now. So, woohoo. Um, I actually look look forward to it. Um, it's a different kind

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of busy, but I look forward to it because I like it. Um, and uh, also I am a mind shift coach. Okay. So, um, that

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means especially niched life coach in short for those who don't understand what that means. My focus is to shift

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your thinking. Like I don't just give you tips and tell you what to do. I literally shift your thinking before I

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do anything else. Then we can talk about tips and everything else. So that that's that's my methodology. But my areas of

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focus as far as coaching goes um are balance because everything in life that

The 4 Pillars of My Coaching: Balance, Purpose, Career & Teens

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works has balance and all of us are in balance somewhere. So I help people to find their balance in whatever

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particular area they need balance in. Um and I don't mean chemical mental that

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kind of balance. I mean, you go too far in one direction when it comes to relationships and you just need to be

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balanced. So, I'm I you go too far at work, which causes problems. You just need some balance and then you'll

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work. Um, and one of my other focuses is

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um helping you to find your purpose and your in your specific individual

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purpose. And I am unafraid to dive in there and be really specific. Sometimes people are general because it's the

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safety zone. I don't believe in safety zones. I I believe in in being real and

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effective. So, I help you to find your individual purpose. I don't just tell it to you. I help you to find it yourself.

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And then um I also help you once you find your purpose. I'm a firm believer

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that you should take your purpose and make money with it. So helping you to take your purpose, passion, gifts, and

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talents, which really at the end of the day, they're all part of the same thing,

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and turn that into a career or business, you know. Um, and then my other focus,

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my other fourth focus is teenagers. And I have a so I'm also a host of Mind

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Shift Power podcast. It's a podcast for teens and the adults who work with them. I also do speak in engagements, um,

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public speaking, a lot of online stuff nowadays. Um, and I also go to high schools and do workshops. Um, I do

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online workshops as well. So, all of that is wrapped up into my mind shifting business. Yes. I mean, absolutely. I

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mean, there was no way that I was going to be able to share all of that. And that's why I love giving the space for a

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guest to just, you know, tell us a bit about who they are because you you don't want to uh take away from all the

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experiences that led you to where you are today and and being able to build the business that you have and go to the

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speaking events and really work with people that are ready to shift their mindset, you know, maybe from a fix to

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growth or even just finding their passion. I feel that that's like what's your purpose is such a big question that

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it's it's it's it does require work, right? And absolutely a lot of the times

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it's something that you can't do it on your own unless you really have a lot of time for you to dive into what that will

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really look like. But it's nice to have someone that can actually that has the experience um in helping you, you know,

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um shift that mindset, right? Uh it's nice to have someone that has done the work themselves and that have ultimately

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built a framework that has worked with other people that you're using over and over again. Obviously, it's customized,

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right? You know, it's not it's not like one sizefits all, right? No, absolutely not. Yeah. So, I I love that you have

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you have found that passion for yourself where you want to help people be the best of themselves by finding their true

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passion in life. The big question that I have because finding your purpose or

The BIG Question: How Do You Help People Find Their Purpose?

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knowing what what is your why is so hard. How do you do that with your

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clients? I know you said you will ask the tough questions. You will you will help them get there. But what does that

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exactly look like? If I were to want to work with you, what does that look like?

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Well, without giving away all my secrets, um I I'll give you the the generalities

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um without and not all the details because the generalities, you know, the principles by which I work. Um and then

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the details are going to change per person because everybody, you know, as you said, doesn't operate the same. So, actually, I don't approach everybody the

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same. I don't even use the same verbiage with everyone because I assess who I'm talking to first and then I approach

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them with the words that are going to be effective for them. I'm not interested in being in in being impressive as much

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as I'm interested in being impactful. So that mindset is my mindset as a leader,

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as a speaker, as a teacher, as a podcast host. So with that mindset is how I dive

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into um you know coaching or working with someone. One of the first things that we

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need to think about and there's what I'm going to say you've heard other people say um in different places but I don't

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usually hear people say this all in one place. Um, so one of the first things

Question 1: What Did You Dream of as a Child?

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you want to look at when it comes to finding your purpose is what did you dream of when you were a

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child? Because let's back up a little bit. Let's go a little deeper into just

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the surface conversations people typically have. Let's back up a little bit. If I want you to sweep the floor,

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what do I need to give you? The tools to be able to sweep the floor. So the broom. Um, exactly. Exactly. I

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need to give you a broom. Mhm. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but I do and that's where I come from. So

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that's where I'm going to talk from. Yeah. When God created you, when he created me, he had a purpose in mind. He

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said, I need XYZ done. I'm going to create Adah. I'm going to create

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Fatima. And then now that I need her to do this, I need to give

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her the setup for it. We call those gifts and talents. So when we those

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dreams that we were literally born with, we need to go back to them and revisit

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them. What did I dream of as a child? Now, in most cases, unfortunately, and

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and this is not just an American thing. I don't care what culture you come from. Most of our cultures beat it out of

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us. When I was little, I used to dream of being a lawyer.

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And you've been told how stupid you are most of your life. You've been told what a loser you are. You've been shown that

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you're from the ghetto. You're from the sticks. You're poor. You can't do nothing. Blah blah blah. Whatever the

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details are, you don't speak English well enough. You're stupid. Whatever the details are, you've been it's been

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beaten out of you. So now you no longer believe in that dream you were born to do. So then you start working a job and

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you're miserable. You're doing drugs. You're having sex with everybody. You're doing this. You're doing that. trying to find it in relationships, but you're not

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finding the happiness that you're meant to have because you're still not fulfilling your purpose because you're running from it because you believe the

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you were sold. I know. So, that's a part of it. Let's go

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back to your childhood. I'm just explaining why. What did you dream when you were a child? The second thing um

Question 2: What Makes You Righteously Angry?

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that you want to look at is what pisses you off. Now, let me be more specific when I say that. I don't just mean it

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pisses me off when people leave the milk on the counter when it should go in the fridge. No, I mean what gets you

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righteously angry. What gets you so upset it is so wrong that things are out

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of order. And some people like seriously get upset about that. Sometimes there's a reason for that. They're not weird.

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They're not strange. That's actually where they're gifted. So, okay. Okay. What makes you

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mad? Children being abused. That's my example because that's me. People who

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misuse and and abuse young women and children. Nothing gets me more angry and

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makes me just want to see red and wish the purge was real. Let's just say

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that, you know, nothing makes me more angry and but those are the things that I I and because those are the things

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that I'm meant to work on and focus on and that is what I do. I do tend to work with young women um a lot and and women

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uh those tend to be my focuses and children. I I used to teach Sunday school. I've worked with children all my life. I used to be youth coordinator. I

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just in different capacities. I I I you know I've done a lot with children. But

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so what you are meant I what the thing that angers you the most, the thing that

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with righteous indignation, it's probably the thing you're meant to change. There's a reason why certain

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things piss me off that don't bother you that much. And I'm not talking about irritations. I mean righteous

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indignation because that's a different level of of what makes you angry. Yeah,

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that's number two. Number three, what are your gifts and talents?

Question 3: What Are Your True Gifts & Talents?

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Well, that's a tough question. Number one was your dream. Number three is what are your gifts and talents? And that is a tough one. And the reason it's a tough

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one because again, it's beaten out of us through our society, through our family, through our culture, through whatever

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because the details are going to be different for each of us. We're told what we're supposed to be and what we're not supposed to be and what's

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what we're good enough for and what we're not good enough for, etc., etc., etc. So, we we are or we're just never

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told that we have any talent. We're just raised to breathe and eat and fart and

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watch TV and that's it. You know what I'm saying? We're not we're not told anything. No, nobody points out to us

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what our gifts and talents are. That's not true for everyone, but that's true for a lot of people or the people around

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them just don't recognize it and so they don't know to say, you know, it's not that everybody around them a jerk, a

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jerk or something. It's just that sometimes they don't know. I don't know what your gifts and talents are, so I don't know what to say to you. So, you

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have to go on a journey of self-discovery for yourself. You cannot expect anybody to walk up to you and hand you your life's book and say, "Here

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you go. Here's all the answers for you." Life is about you finding it. That's how you build yourself. That's how you build strength. That's how you develop. It's

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not supposed to be easy. Duh. Everything is an easy purpose. So, but if you take

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those three things and you marry them together, that's when you could find the

How to Marry Your Answers to Find Your Perfect Career

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right career. Yeah. So, you know, you go from purpose to my purpose is to help

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children. Okay. There's about 40 different positions in which you can do

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that. So take the let's take those three

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things and marry them and you'll be able to narrow down narrow down what positions are going to work for you and

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then you'll be fulfilled. You know what's not fulfilling? Money. Money can

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buy you stuff, but it can't fulfill you. And that's the problem. Because if it could fulfill you, there would be no

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rich people killing themselves. There'll be no rich people depressed. There'll be no rich people in in in rehab. And we

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have all of that. Mhm. Because money isn't the answer. Money answers things. It answers stuff and money is great and

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we should we should definitely have some. There's nothing wrong with going after it. Absolutely nothing wrong with going after it. But when we try to to

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put a square peg in a round hole, which is what we're doing when we seek after money as the top priority, it doesn't

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fit and then we actually end up more miserable. So it's what? Go ahead. No,

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no, no, no, no. I'll let you finish because I have a couple questions here to hit you with. It's why I'm so It's

Why True Fulfillment Comes from Purpose, Not Money

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part of the reason I'm I'm sure you can hear my passion. I'm so passionate about people finding that because when you

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find that your happiness isn't in a one, two, three step. Your happiness isn't fulfilling your purpose. A dog is

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happiest being a dog. A dog is not happy trying to fly because he doesn't have damn

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wings, you know. And so often we are trying we're, you know, we're a parakeet trying to be a giraffe. Yeah. It doesn't

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work. Yeah. You're not. Yes. Yes. And and because we don't know who we

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are, we try to we we we just believe whatever we're sold.

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Which sidebar is one of the reason why

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um women who get into prostitution, um sexual exploitation of and of all of

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its kinds, because there's there's many different kinds. Mhm. 99% of the reason

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they didn't know who they were and some little pimp told them who they were and they believed it and they took

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it because they had no other answer. Mhm. And I'm not just saying that off of a concept at the top of my head. I'm

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saying that because I've actually worked um intimately with people in that industry and victims as well.

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Well, here is a couple questions for you because I mean you make a very good point because um you see that every day

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where people end up doing things that you wonder why. Do you want you end up wondering why they became a drug dealer?

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You wonder why they ended up being part of it, you know, a gang, you know, you you wonder why, you know, they they

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started a certain way. Like maybe it's just they started being successful for a reason. Maybe they were chasing money and then all of a sudden they lost it

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all and they're unhappy. You know, you wonder like why people went into certain directions in our lives. But I

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absolutely agree when you say that um when we don't know who we are, we end

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up taking any path that comes to us because there are opportunities every single day. There are opportunities

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every single day. There are different paths we can take every single day. But some can look very attractive. But you

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have to know the reason why you're pursuing pursuing those opportunities. Because if you don't know what why you're pursuing them, you will end to

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that you will get to that finish line and you'll say, "Wow, this finish line was not what I expected. I actually

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wanted something else. I wanted something more." So, one of the things that I want to say

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that really that I feel like we don't talk enough about and actually we get shut down a lot is when when someone is

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angry and the word that's usually used is passionate about something, you know,

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like I feel like when you say someone is passionate about something, it kind of has like like I'll take for example in

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corporate America where it says um oh, she's too passionate. It has a negative

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connotation. So then we then internalize that and do not think about why we're so

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passionate about certain things. Again, like being shut down by society's, you know, expectations of you and what you

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should look like, what you should be. And so when you hear passionate, you're like, "Okay, well, I guess I'm not

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supposed to be passionate." But you're right. When you're so passionate about something, there is a message. There is

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a whisper there. Why are you so passionate about this? Why are you so angry about something that you feel

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isn't right and what can you actually do about it? Right? So, I I love how you

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put that. Think about how angry you are at certain situation. Not not every daytoday things, right? Um like the

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clock um well the daylight saving, you know, I I get upset at it every every

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spring. I'm like, "Oh my gosh, I'm losing an hour." You know, like

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I know. I hate that. Yes. And so how do you get so obviously

The Power of Psychology in Coaching & Finding Patterns

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when you're you're uh having these conversations with people and you're getting them to be more vulnerable about

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you know the things that get them upset. How do you help them judge what is that

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angry passionate thing? Because we can be angry about so many things. Right. Right. How do you how do you

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differentiate different differentiate something that yes, you can be angry about because you're human versus you're

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angry about this because this could be your life's purpose. How how do you help

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them make that that difference between the two? I usually can see it right away. Um like literally I can see it

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right away, but I don't tell them because as a coach I'm I don't want to

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just give you information. that doesn't help you be telling you, "Oh, here you're meant to be such and such and

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then now go on that path." That's that's that's not an anchor for you to continue

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on that just because I said so. You need to discover it for yourself. So, I will ask very specific questions in the midst

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of conversation. So, it depends on the details they give me. Um, and I'll ask them, "Okay, what do you think that is?" And they'll start to list things off.

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And then I'll say, "Okay." And we'll we'll talk about each one and I'll break it down. Are you you angry when people

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stub your toe? Okay, we all are. It's big deal. You angry when someone jumps in front of you. Okay, that's normal.

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Are you angry when someone jumps in front of you, but also equally angry

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when someone jumps in front of you in line? Are you also equally angry when someone else does the same thing with a

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different look to it? Okay, now let's talk about what the root of that is. So, it is there's a lot of psychology

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involved. So sometimes it's because of what was done to you, but sometimes it's

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because basically in short, look for patterns. What I look for is patterns. Patterns. Yes, there are many details

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that I can't say here cuz this is not long enough, but there are details that go along with that. But in short, what I

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look for and listen for is patterns. And what I get them to see is patterns. And

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then we talk about the explanation of them because then they can see, ah, so what really bothers me is when an

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underdog is mistreated. The girl who always stuck

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up, the boy who always stuck up for somebody at school that they didn't even freaking

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know. There's a reason for that. They're usually the youth advocate. They're

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usually the one who's meant to be a family lawyer or, you know, whatever. There are many different positions in

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which you can take that talent. So what people have to recognize is transferable skills. That's the term we use in

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corporate America. But um it's really your gifts and talents and okay, where can you

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apply them? Because there's so many different ways and in order, you know, basically to get people to recognize it

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is I I get them to see it through a series of questions and and a discussion with their details, not just generalized

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allpurpose. I don't do allpurpose messages. Even my podcast episodes, I'm not talking to everybody and I don't

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plan on ever talking to everybody. I'm talking to very specific people because I don't believe in water down messages

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because a watered down medication doesn't work, does it? Nope. Absolutely not. Did I answer that well? You

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certainly did. You certainly did. I love that. Love that. Now, okay. So, what is

What Does Coaching with Fatima Bey Look Like?

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what does coaching or Yeah. What does coaching look like with you? So, like let's say someone is listening to the

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show right now and they're like, "You know what? I like Fatima's vibe. I like how she's just like really speaking to me and I feel like I really need to talk

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to someone like her and try to dive into like who I want to be and really try to understand what my person my my passion

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in life or my purpose in life is. Where did I start? Like okay, where do they

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reach out to you and then do you have like a program and is there like a length of that program that you can

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share with us? Yes. So what I do is I do customized packages. Um, I I don't do I

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I did used to have preset packages, but I found that they don't work with most

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people. So, you know, I don't I I don't just sit there and go, "Oh, you know, oh, well, 6 weeks and we're done." So,

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some people 6 weeks and we are done because they're far enough ahead that that's all they need. Some people need two years. Some people need, you know,

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so we all need different we all need different things. So, I customize the package, but everything is communicated up front. It's not like a surprise later

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or something. So, it's a discussion uh between the two of us and an agreement before we get anything started. Um, but

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with me, um, I really like to get to know the person and find out what the real needs are. And they need to be

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ready to for change. Cuz some people, I'll tell you, I'll be real honest with you. Those who are looking to to come to

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a coach because you want somebody to powder your booty, please pass me by. I don't want you. I don't want to be

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bothered with you. I don't waste my time with you. I want real results. I really get a thrill out of watching people

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change for real and be better. So, I get fulfillment out of it, too. And I will

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be very disappointed if I can't make change. You can't make change with somebody who's not willing to change. So, number one, be really be willing for

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change for real. And I'll walk you through it. I will and you can go through at your own pace. You don't have to go at my pace because everybody's

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pace isn't the same. And I do understand that. I customize everything. So, but in order to for people to find me, you just

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go to my name, Fatima Bay.com, f- a tim.com. Um, and all of my information

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is there. Um, yeah, and even if you Google my name, you'll just you'll find

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a lot and it's all me. Okay. So, it's customizable. You're obviously very

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relatable. Um, we got the website. We'll make sure that we add that in the show notes so folk so so folks can just click

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on it and you know go straight to your website. You know one thing that really stood out to me real quick before we

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wrap up today is I'm actually curious how do you find balance between coaching and being a seamstress? I love wedding

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dresses by the way. I wish I could wear wear wedding dresses every single day but how do you find balance between the

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two? I won't lie. It's hard. It it it is very hard. The good thing about the

A Tough Question: Balancing Two Passionate Businesses

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bridal business is it's seasonal. That's also the bad thing about the bridal business. Um, I'm extremely

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extremely extremely extremely organized. I have to be and I'm very stingy with my

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time. I have to be. So, I try to be as efficient as possible and automate everything that I can. Some things can't

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be automated, but I try to automate everything I can. Um, and I always am

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learning more. Like I will never stop learning. I never think I know everything. Even as a I'm a master

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seamstress, literally that's my title. I will never stop learning. Try to learn more. I watch other YouTube videos

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because there might be something else I could learn. Yeah. Obviously. Yeah. We we all learn something. I mean, we learn

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something new every single day. Absolutely agree with that. For me, um, I will not lie. It has not been easy

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trying to balance the two. But what my initial intent was by doing both was to

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use the you know my already established sewing business to to make make sure

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that I'm paying the bills while building the mind shifting business while building the coach coaching business. I

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am still in that process. So that is how I'm doing it is is I you know I'm

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shifting over to uh I have been and like I said still in the process of shifting over um to primarily focusing on the

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mind shifting. Yes. So um it's not easy. I love I love the fact that you're

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actually in two businesses that kind of work hand in hand because I think about

A Client's Life-Changing Story: How Coaching Made a Real-World Impact

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when I was getting married last year and you know wedding planning and trying to find the right dress and you know making

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sure that I was happy with it and um I would have appreciated if the person

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that was helping me figure out my dress that they had inspirational things to

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say or like they had ways to help me calm down as you know a bride to be and

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just you know make that whole experience a little bit more exciting. I mean it was exciting because family was there and all those things but you know there

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were moments where I was doubting okay does the dress look right or maybe I'm overthinking it you know or okay yes I

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mean it's going to be like a wedding in Mexico so it's going to be hot you know like am I thinking too much into this

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you know like I'm spending like a whole hour or so trying to figure this out and I think sometimes it's nice to have

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someone just say those very key words you're not you wouldn't be telling me this is the dress you need because this

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is and that you would be most likely asking me questions that help me get to that. Oh yes, this is the dress I want

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or you know what, maybe let's do more tweaks or maybe let me look at other dresses, you know. So I I absolutely

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love that you you have actually paired those two together. So that's awesome. It's interesting that you say that

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because most people actually don't don't connect those dots, but you're absolutely you're absolutely right. Um,

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and that's one of the reason why I have been doing it for so long because and

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and I work by appointment only. I do not have a storefront. I all of each

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location that I've had my business in the past to have been in business buildings, office buildings that you

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don't suspect me to be in. Okay? And then I'll convert it into a shop. And I do that on purpose because I don't want

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walk-ins. I don't want people disturbing my time with with my customer. And I

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give people that one-on-one service and I absolutely love it because it is an opportunity. I I can tell you so many so

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often. It's not like this happens every single time with every customer. You know, I'm not superwoman,

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but very often with customers, you know, a wedding is a stressful time and they

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will start talking to me about this what they've been going through with their family and what they're dealing with and

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what's stressing them out and because I'm I'm I'm an objective listener. So, it's easy to talk to me

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and I'm not going to run around tell the newspaper or anything, you know what I mean? So, people do and sometimes they

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need that that stress relief, you know, and sometimes I can tell that they're stressed when they come in and um by the

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time they see me, they're they're not as stressed, but once in a while, you know, I see somebody, they're very stressed

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and I could tell. So, I start cracking stupid jokes that you can't help but to laugh at because they're just too dumb

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not to laugh at, right? I do that a lot. I use humor as a tool quite often because people need it. You

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know, I see that people need it. So, marrying the two, I also want to say

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doing the two together, yes, I'm a dual entrepreneur and yes, parts of it is working, but there's also parts that

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haven't worked. There's also some failures that I've made. And I'm not going to lie about that cuz I don't want

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people to think that, oh, well, she just has superpowers, that's why she can do it. No, I'm just as human as the rest of

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y'all. and and I haven't made some mistakes in trying to figure out how to balance all of that out. Um, but those

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mistakes make you better, you know, and and I'm going to use those mistakes to teach others. Love it. Oh my gosh, you

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couldn't have said that any better. Oh my gosh, this is this is so so good, guys. I mean, I absolutely encourage

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folks listening right now, reach out to reach out to Fatima. I feel that in just

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a little bit that I've been able to talk to you right now, I can really see that you care about really the person that

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you're talking to. You're not about necessarily like the oh my gosh, you know, I have a new client, you know, and

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you know, I get to, you know, help them, you know, see their purpose, but then you're really not helping with the

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process, right? You're just there for just because you're a coach, right? You care about the people that you work

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with. That's at least that I get. and you're really trying to really make an impact in those lives and hopefully

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those are like, you know, it's it's like a ripple effect, right? You impact that person's life and then they can also

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impact the life of the the lives of people around them. And I honestly think

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that because you have something that helps touch so many different lives. I

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mean, if you work with a mom, I'm sure that by her aligning on the things that

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she wants to improve on or her finding what that purpose is in her life, she will pass that on to her kid and maybe

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that kid will end up working with you, right? Because again, you you work with kids as well. I just feel like it's a

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beautiful circle where we end up like having some support um in this journey called life. Um,

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there's no better journey than that of self-development and to have someone as

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a coach like yourself be able to support us in that process. I mean, what what more can you ask for, right? Every

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single day is different. Every single day you wake up, life will feel different, but what if you were able to

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have like a set of tools, right? Just like you said, you know, uh, when God created us, he said, "Okay, here here's

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what you'll need to go through the motions of life, right?" So, if you have a coach that allows you to have in your

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toolbox things that will help you manage how you feel, how you think, and

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ultimately get into that big why that we all want to know. I mean, this is this is pretty awesome. I I love this.

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I I want to say one more thing. I I also believe

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um I don't focus on only your personal goals, only your business goals. You are

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one person doing both. So I focus on you and if you are in the right mindset

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because everything we do comes from in our brains first before we act on it. So everything if your mindset is correct

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yes we will start to see it manifest itself in your career in your business

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in your home with your friends at your parties because you are in all those

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places and the good you and the messed up you is in all those places too. So,

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you know, dealing with your mentality and dealing with your mindset is is important and it's important to shift

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your thinking so that you can be successful because sometimes we keep walking on a broken leg and wondering why we can't run. Duh. Let's fix the

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leg. Yes. I love that. There is one thing I

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do have to ask you real quick. So, I love that you called yourself the mind

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shifter um or the mind shift coach. Um, it looks like in the notes that you

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shared, which I feel like we should we should definitely mention it here. I mean, you you won best of Albany 2022 in

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a category, right? She also has YouTube channel, folks. I mean, you'll see that

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on her website. Um, and obviously like you, like she said, she's the host of her podcast, Mind Mind Shift

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Powerodcast. So, I don't know. I just wanted to just highlight this because I was looking at your summary real quick

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because I was really imp impressed by your um the bio that you sent to us. So

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again, I want to add something. I I didn't put this in the bio, so you didn't even know this, but I want

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everybody listening to go to Mind Shift Power podcast and listen to episode number two. Okay, episode number two is

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a 17-year-old girl. It's called Real Change. a 17-year-old girl that when I

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met her, she had no self- she had very low self-esteem. She had no idea that

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she was gifted, that she's intelligent, and that she has a purpose. She now

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knows what that purpose is. She was just accepted into a a good college. She's going to become a family lawyer, and

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she's literally on the track to do that. When I met her, she wasn't even sure she was going to finish high school. Wow.

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And she was in a toxic relationship. That's amazing. So she if you want to hear what my

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coaching actually looks like, listen to her. Listen to her. You You heard it, folks. Episode two. Go check it out

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right now. Fatima, if there was something of an advice that you could give to

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somebody right now listening to the show, what would that be? Or what was the best advice that you've ever given

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to somebody or that you've ever received? What would that be? Oh, those are different questions. Um or both, I guess.

The Single Most Important Question You Can Ask Yourself

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I would say start to question how you view yourself and why.

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Why do I think XYZ about myself, good or bad? Good or bad. Why do I think?

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Because if we start to examine that, it'll take us down a rabbit hole that will lead to other things. Okay? And

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when you start to do that, self-discovery becomes a lot easier. But you got to be open to it first.

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Absolutely. If you want to be comfortable, then you're not looking to grow, you should probably move on.

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Go have a party and sit down and go nowhere. But if you're looking to grow, I would start I would start there with

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some introspection and asking why is the first part. There's so many things I

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could say but I know that a lot of introspection true real in real and deep

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not shallow not surface but real deep introspection is actually what is needed

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for most people who are looking for a quick fix and introspection is not a quick fix sorry it's not y um and I know

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that that is the great one of the greater needs so that's why I'm saying that as as advice when I could say many other things one of the greatest needs I

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see is the willingness to do that I love that might be uncomfortable, but you got

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to get uncomfortable if you want to grow. Yeah. All right, folks. You have two homework. Answer that question, good

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or bad, whatever comes up to you. Do the work. And two, go listen to episode two

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of her podcast. Fatima, it's been a pleasure having you on the show. Thank you so much for making the time. I

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absolutely enjoy talking to you. Simone jealous that she couldn't be here and enjoy this combo with you. But yes,

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thank you again. And I do hope that we talk to you very soon. Thank you for having me. I really appreciate it. Yay.

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