Golden Turds

Fatima Bey The MindShifter • March 5, 2025

 The Bullshit Dance of Avoidance

 

Let's get real for a moment.

 

I'm tired of the bullshit sugarcoating that passes for communication these days. You know what I mean - those polite little lies, those soft-pedaled explanations that dance around the truth like nervous teenagers at a school dance. We've become masters of avoiding discomfort, experts at painting turds golden and calling them chocolates.

 

The Illusion of Protection

 

But here's the thing: real growth? Real progress? It starts with looking straight at the mess and calling it exactly what it is.

 

When you sugarcoat reality, you're not being kind. You're not protecting anyone. You're just delaying the inevitable and making the eventual truth hit harder when it finally breaks through. Whether it's a personal struggle, a business challenge, or a relationship dynamic, covering up the ugly parts doesn't make them disappear. It just gives them more power.

 

The Silent Killer: Avoidance

 

And let's talk about the real damage of this avoidance. Every time you lie to yourself, you're building a prison of illusion. You're creating a gap between what is and what you're willing to see. This disconnect doesn't just hurt you - it destroys your ability to make meaningful changes.

 

Avoidance is a cancer of the spirit. It eats away at your potential, your relationships, your entire life trajectory. When you refuse to confront hard truths, you're essentially choosing comfortable stagnation over uncomfortable growth. You're trading your power of transformation for a momentary sense of peace that's nothing more than a cheap illusion.

 

Successful People Don't Sugarcoat

 

Think about the most successful people you know. They aren't successful because they sugar-coated their failures. They're successful because they looked their challenges dead in the eye, acknowledged them fully, and then systematically dismantled them.

 

Honesty as Respect

 

Honesty isn't about being cruel. It's about respect. Respect for yourself, respect for others, respect for the complex, messy truth of existence. When you tell it like it is, you give people - including yourself - the chance to actually deal with what's real.

 

The Challenge: Radical Transparency

 

So here's my challenge to you: Stop. Sugarcoating. Everything.

 

Look your challenges in the eye. Describe your struggles in raw, unfiltered language. Admit when something is hard, painful, or straight-up shitty. Because only when you acknowledge the real landscape can you start mapping a genuine path forward.

 

The First Step

 

Brutal honesty is the first step to meaningful change.

 

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